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Disorganized Attachment Style Coaching

Living with a disorganized attachment style can create confusing, painful dynamics in relationships—often marked by a push-pull between seeking connection and fearing closeness. Our tailored coaching offers three private, one-hour sessions designed to help you understand this complex attachment pattern, develop emotional regulation skills, and create secure, lasting relationships. Choose between confidential video coaching or face-to-face sessions to suit your preference.

How We Teach You to Handle Disorganized Attachment Style

Comprehensive Attachment Style Assessment:
We start with a professional evaluation to map your disorganized attachment traits, relational triggers, and coping mechanisms. This helps create a personalised coaching plan that addresses your unique needs and challenges.

Psychoeducation and Insight:
Learn what disorganized attachment is—how it arises from childhood trauma or inconsistent caregiving, the common behaviours it spurs, and its impact on adult relationships. Understanding these foundations reduces self-blame and increases self-compassion.

Self-Regulation and Emotional Awareness:
Master mindfulness, grounding techniques, and body-based practices that help regulate overwhelming emotions which commonly lead to freezing, dissociation, or impulsivity in relationships. These tools improve your ability to stay present and responsive instead of reactive.

Building Secure Communication and Boundaries:
Develop skills for clear, honest, and non-threatening communication. Coaching includes practical exercises in expressing needs effectively, setting and respecting boundaries, and navigating the push-pull dynamics typical of disorganized attachment.

Rewiring Negative Beliefs and Script Work:
Through guided coaching, identify and challenge the negative core beliefs or internal narratives that maintain disorganized patterns, such as fear of abandonment, distrust, or emotional confusion. Replace them with secure, supportive frameworks to build healthier inner dialogue.

Gradual Exposure to Safe Intimacy:
Take safe, incremental steps toward deepening connection and trust. Coaching supports you in managing vulnerability fears and re-learning to rely on secure relationships as new emotional experiences replace old trauma-driven patterns.

Real-World Practice and Support:
Every session concludes with targeted exercises, journaling prompts, and accountability checklists. You receive continuous support to apply new skills between sessions, fostering genuine shifts in how you relate to yourself and others.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) – Disorganized Attachment Style Coaching

1. What is disorganized attachment, and how does it affect relationships?
   Disorganized attachment is marked by inconsistent behaviour like craving closeness while fearing it, often stemming from childhood trauma or neglect. It leads to relationship confusion and instability.
2. How can coaching help manage disorganized attachment?
   Coaching provides safe exploration of attachment wounds, tools for emotional regulation, communication skills, and exercises to build secure relational habits, preventing self-sabotage.
3. Are sessions remote or in-person?
   You can opt for confidential video coaching or face-to-face sessions tailored to your comfort and availability.
4. What techniques are used in coaching?
   Psychoeducation, mindfulness, grounding, communication and boundary-setting skills, script work to rewrite negative beliefs, and gradual trust-building exercises.
5. How soon can changes be noticed?
   Clients often experience better emotional regulation and clearer communication within weeks, with ongoing progress in relational security over time.
6. Is it possible to move toward secure attachment?
   Yes, disorganized attachment can be healed with sustained effort, supportive coaching, and by building new secure relational experiences.

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