Relationship Boundaries Test

A Professional Self-Assessment by Miss Date Doctor (London)

Healthy relationships depend on clear, respectful boundaries — yet boundaries are one of the most misunderstood and
emotionally challenging areas in relationships.

The Relationship Boundaries Test by Miss Date Doctor is a structured, psychology-informed self-assessment designed to
measure how clearly you understand your personal boundaries, how comfortable you feel expressing them, and how
consistently you maintain them in close relationships.

This assessment is used by individuals and couples across London and the UK who want healthier communication,
stronger emotional safety, and more balanced relationship dynamics.

What the Relationship Boundaries Test Measures

This interactive test evaluates boundary awareness and boundary behaviour across multiple areas that commonly impact
relationship satisfaction:

• Emotional boundaries
• Communication and self-expression
• Time, availability, and personal space
• Responsibility for emotions
• Conflict tolerance and repair
• Self-advocacy vs people-pleasing

Rather than focusing on “right” or “wrong,” the test identifies patterns — helping you understand where boundaries
are unclear, inconsistent, or overly rigid.

How the Relationship Boundaries Test Works

The assessment uses slider-based responses, similar to tools used in professional psychological and coaching
environments.

You will be asked to respond to a series of statements by adjusting a bar from low agreement to high agreement,
reflecting how true each statement feels for you in your relationship.

Each response contributes to a Boundary Strength Score, which provides a clear snapshot of how boundaries currently
function in your relationships.

Your Results: What You’ll Learn

At the end of the assessment, you receive a detailed, personalised interpretation of your results, including:

• Your overall Boundary Strength Score
• Your dominant boundary pattern
• Insight into how your boundaries affect communication and conflict
• Common emotional triggers linked to boundary difficulty
• Practical guidance on what to improve next

Your results are presented in clear, non-judgemental language designed to support reflection and growth.

Boundary Profiles Explained

Under-Boundaried

You may prioritise harmony, approval, or emotional safety over your own needs. This pattern often leads to
resentment, emotional exhaustion, or loss of self within relationships.

Inconsistent Boundaries

You understand boundaries intellectually but struggle to hold them under emotional pressure, conflict, or fear of
disappointing others.

Secure & Clear Boundaries

You are able to express needs, tolerate discomfort, and respect both your own limits and your partner’s, even during
difficult conversations.

Each profile includes specific insight and growth recommendations.

Why Boundaries Matter in Relationships

Most recurring arguments, emotional distance, and resentment in relationships are not caused by the topic of
conflict — they are caused by unclear or unheld boundaries.

Healthy boundaries allow you to:

• Communicate needs without guilt
• Stay emotionally regulated during conflict
• Feel respected without controlling your partner
• Maintain individuality within connection

This assessment helps make those invisible patterns visible.

Who This Test Is For

The Relationship Boundaries Test is ideal if you:

• Struggle to say no without guilt
• Feel responsible for your partner’s emotions
• Avoid conflict to keep the peace
• Feel resentful but unsure why
• Want healthier communication without blame
• Are considering relationship counselling or coaching

You do not need to be in crisis to benefit from this assessment.

Why Miss Date Doctor Created This Assessment

As a London-based relationship therapist and certified life coach, Miss Date Doctor works with individuals and
couples who are often highly self-aware — yet still feel stuck in repeating emotional patterns.

This assessment was created to:

• Offer clarity before counselling begins
• Help clients language what feels “off”
• Support personal responsibility without self-criticism
• Translate therapeutic insight into practical understanding

It reflects the same principles used in professional relationship counselling, adapted for everyday use.

Frequently Asked Questions

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What are boundaries in a relationship?

Boundaries are the emotional, physical, and psychological limits that define what you are responsible for — and what
you are not — in a relationship.

How do I know if I have boundary issues?

Common signs include guilt when saying no, resentment, emotional burnout, people-pleasing, or frequent conflict
around the same issues.

Can this test help couples?

Yes. The test can be completed individually or by both partners to support clearer conversations and healthier
dynamics.

Is this a therapy session?

No. This is a self-assessment tool, but it is informed by professional therapeutic frameworks.

Is this suitable for UK clients?

Yes. Miss Date Doctor is based in London, and this assessment is designed with UK relationship dynamics in mind.

Take the Relationship Boundaries Test

If you want clearer communication, healthier conflict, and stronger emotional safety in your relationship, the
Relationship Boundaries Test by Miss Date Doctor offers a structured, professional starting point.