The dating game is not easy and with social media, online dating sites full of players, liars and cheaters running around looking for victims this dating thing is tough but other than the above difficulties communication in dating is vital. The truth is whether we want to admit it or not some of us are quite simply terrible at dating. The thing about being terrible at dating is there are so many variables involved. In some cases, the problems can be self-inflicted but in other cases, it is a pure misunderstanding. There are more than 9 texts you should not send a man but today we will cover the main ones. but before we get to that I want you to be honest about the category you put yourself in as a woman. What is it you are truly seeking? Below are the possibles answer these questions honestly.
I want to get married
I want a relationship
I am not sure what I want
I want to get married but I am very insecure
I don’t know I am confused and lonely
The thing is dependent on what you want is going to have a domino effect on your behavior and that behavior will have an effect on your text messaging. Whether you are profusely texting all the time to the person you are dating or you just send it sometimes what you say to the person you are dating is a vital aspect of the strength of your communication levels. we aim to give you honest and integrity driven information on dating so if we just say 9 texts to make any man fall in love with you. We would not expect you to believe us because quite frankly every man is individual and to make such a bold claim wouldn’t be realistic , but we do aim to give you 9 texts that genuinely should not be sent to a man so that you are representing yourself in the right way in dating and communicating in the right way in dating, so here we go lets start number 1. These are 9 texts you must never send to a man.
1.) Where are you answer this phone right now!!
This text is bossy and threatening there is no man that want’s to date his mum or teacher don’t tell him off. It may be the case you want to know where he is and perhaps you already called and he has not returned your call but once you go in this nagging and demands zone most guys will quite frankly be put off and act resistant.
2.) I am not sure about us, I am not sure if it’s working ( Your Bluffing! )
It is bad enough to break up with someone via text but to actually send this message when you don’t mean it is the worst thing you can do when dating a guy. It is a common tactic of a lot of women to threaten to leave a guy to keep him on his toes or teach him a lesson if he has done something wrong or has not been treating you right but it is very bad for respect and regard levels in your relationship. If you always make threats the guy you are dating will find it hard to take you seriously and may treat you with disrespect also he may find your threats to break up all the time a risk in regards to marrying you in the future. Will you just leave? No matter how upset you are never threaten to break up in a text.
It doesn’t matter what he has done or how upset you are if your guy has upset you deal with it face to face and do not send abusive text messages. The problem with getting into arguments via text or what’s app is that these messages will be permanently on his phone unless he chooses to delete them. If there is an issue address it face to face realistically there will be some instances that your guy may have left you very upset but deal with it face to face.
4.) I am not happy with you because…….
If you have an issue with a guy the worst thing you can do is send long text messages discussing the issue guys absolutely hate this. The deep conversations and resolving issues are not something that can be sorted by what’s app or text men just don’t operate like that. The script long text messages of expressing how you feel and your grievances should be saved for a discussion when you meet up never make a guy feel bombarded with dissatisfaction and criticism tell him how you feel but do so in a non-accusatory fashion face to face.
5.) I remember my ex-boyfriend used to do that
This is one of the 9 texts that can land you in real trouble men absolutely hate this do not mention what you and your ex-used to do under any circumstances the guy will not appreciate it. When it comes to jealously levels and annoyance levels everyone has a different standard of what they can and can’t tolerate but overall most men get really irritated if you mention an ex, Then to make matters worse you have sent this message so he has constant reminder of what you said and that you were reminiscing about your ex-boyfriend.
6.) We are going to my aunties this weekend be at my house at 9!
If there is one thing all men hate it is being controlled and trapped. if you make plans for your boyfriend without consulting him and without asking him what his schedule is it may backfire. If you are forcing them into things or worst of all every man’s greatest fear moving too fast. The worst thing you can do in today’s modern dating arena is making a man feel you are taking over his life and making decisions for him most men absolutely hate this. There is nothing wrong with asking him if he would like to go but do not plan it for him. It doesn’t matter how much he seems to like you do not plan the weekend for him. This kind of text will just not go down well let him make his own decisions if you don’t want to come across like your his mum. It is important you respect he has a right to plan his own schedule and cannot just do what you want him to do.
7.) Do you love me? / Do you miss me?
This text out of the 9 texts is a little tricky because if you just said it once it’s not so bad but if you constantly send these messages it is awkward and can make you seem insecure and needy. The issue with this particular text is we all have needs and we all doubt ourselves sometimes but it is important not to overdo it. the problem is with most men once you become too needy and constantly need reassurance they become distant and irritable and start to pull back Try your best to hold back from sending needy text messages to the man your dating. It is also important that you don’t rely on words a man’s actions should be a representation of how he truly feels about you too much questioning scares men off.
8.) Why are you not answering the phone I hope you are not with Laura. I don’t like her!
If you start dating a guy whether you like it or not he may have some female friends and you bombarding him with threatening texts is not going to help the situation actually it will only make it worse. When we advise people in our relationship training programmes we always tell them do not start a relationship based on too much optimism. If a guy hangs out with loads of women and you don’t like his lifestyle you probably should not date him in. the first place. It is impossible to tell someone not to hang out with their friends just because they are dating you. It quite simply doesn’t make sense and is a complete waste of time for you to start complaining and controlling and making demands of what a man can and can’t do. It will also make you look intimidated by these other women. If the guy you are dating has a female best friend and you do not like the way he conducts himself with them ie he is flirting and acting inappropriately you just should not be dating him. This text out of all 9 texts is a warning not to waste your time and not to put yourself in this kind of awkward situation in the first place. We are all allowed to have friend’s of the opposite sex as long as it is done in a respectful way towards our partner, never send a text complaining about another woman if you feel you are being disrespected move on.
9.) You need to do better I think you should get a new job we need more money
This is the final of the nine texts and under no circumstances should you ever discuss your financial situation with a man via text messages it’s hurtful and offensive and he won’t forget it. If you want to discuss any financial issues, jobs, living arrangements do not do it via text men have a lot of ego and pride and you criticising or making demands for a career change and complaining about finances will really upset him. If there is one takeaway that you take from this article it should it should be that texting is not ideal for serious discussions. The serious discussions should be had face to face. When it comes to money discussions men hold a lot of pride attached to this issue and you miscommunicating such issues via text will make him resent you.
It’s not easy in the dating arena these days and finding love can be so difficult because there are many factors to take into consideration compatibility, personal needs, emotions, failed relationships, careers and personal development as you learn from each relationship you have.
It is so important you don’t let the knockbacks get to you and you don’t give up. The one thing that will definitely stop you from finding love is giving up that is something you must never do. This is the modern society people tend to get married later than the statistics of the past
so the struggle to find the right person is a common one and you should never feel scared that it won’t happen in fact it is that fear that stops many singles from finding love. If you were job hunting it would be imperative for you to fill in job applications and send off your cv it is
the same with looking for love you have to be proactive socialize, meet people, go on dates, do the things that make you feel confident. The truth is for every moment you say I will not meet someone is a precious moment lost because they are loads of singles out there in the same situation as you looking for someone to spend the rest of their life with, let go of your past and let go of the doubts you will find love. We all at Miss Date Doctor are here to support and guide you at all times if you need advice join us on Instagram we provide dating advice
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The main rules of texting a guy in the modern society:
1.) Never seem overly eager bombarding the guy with texts when he is answering never send more than 2 unanswered messages.
2.) Never ever send more than one text a day just to chat it makes you seem needy and unoccupied which is not a good look.
3.) Make sure you are not always the one to text first it should be fifty fifty so that you both know you are interested
4.) Try to limit conversational texts in work hours so you don’t become annoying but evenings and weekends are fine dependant on the work schedule of who you are dating
5.) Be yourself and don’t say anything in the text you would not say in person.
6.) Remember some conversation is not suitable for text because of the inability to display emotions.
7.) Never push for a response to your text no matter how long it takes them to answer just wait they may be busy or not in the mood don’t be pushy.
The bottom line be relaxed, don’t send an influx of messages don’t be pushy, be fun, flirty and watch grammar in the messages.