Am I in an Abusive Relationship? Test | Miss Date Doctor

By Nia Williams — Registered Relationship Therapist & Certified Life Coach at Miss Date Doctor

Relationships should feel safe, supportive, and loving. But sometimes unhealthy patterns develop — leaving us feeling controlled, fearful, or trapped. If you’ve ever wondered “Am I in an abusive relationship?” this interactive quiz can help you reflect on your situation.

This 25-question test highlights possible signs of emotional, psychological, financial, and physical abuse. While it is not a diagnosis, it can guide you toward understanding whether your relationship is healthy or harmful.

Control & Manipulation

1. Does your partner try to control what you wear, who you see, or where you go?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

2. Do you feel nervous about upsetting your partner because of their reaction?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

3. Does your partner check your phone, emails, or social media without permission?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

4. Does your partner try to isolate you from friends or family?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

5. Does your partner guilt-trip or manipulate you into doing things you don’t want to do?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

Emotional & Verbal Abuse

6. Does your partner put you down, insult you, or call you names?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

7. Do they belittle your achievements or make you feel worthless?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

8. Do they blame you for their problems, moods, or anger?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

9. Does your partner give you the “silent treatment” as punishment?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

10. Do you feel like you’re constantly “walking on eggshells” around them?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

Threats & Intimidation

11. Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you, themselves, or others if you don’t comply?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

12. Do they smash things, hit walls, or use intimidation tactics during arguments?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

13. Do you feel afraid of your partner’s temper?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

14. Do they pressure or coerce you into sex or intimacy you don’t want?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

15. Has your partner ever threatened to leave you as a way to control you?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

Financial & Digital Abuse

16. Does your partner control the money or restrict your access to finances?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

17. Do they monitor or dictate how you spend money?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

18. Does your partner use technology to track your movements or online activity?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

19. Have they ever sabotaged your work, career, or education opportunities?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

20. Do they make you feel dependent on them financially?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

Physical Abuse & Safety

21. Has your partner ever pushed, grabbed, slapped, or physically hurt you?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

22. Do you feel unsafe during arguments?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

23. Has your partner ever prevented you from leaving a room, home, or situation?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

24. Has your partner threatened or harmed your pets, children, or property?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

25. Do you sometimes fear for your safety in this relationship?
-- Select --YesSometimesNo

See My Results

This quiz is for reflection only and is not a diagnostic tool. If you feel unsafe, please seek immediate support from trusted friends, family, or professional services.

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